Good Advice

And this can be applied in all areas of your life.  I wish I knew this stuff years and years ago!!

*The work starts and ends with you…- this means that if you’re not happy with you, your life your goals, friends, family etc, your outlook is negative, and your perception is out of whack, you will rely on others for happiness and to make you feel better.  Wrong.  No one else can make you happy except you and when you do the work of liking yourself and learning to boost your own confidence and self esteem you will never need anyone in your life. Of course we all desire to be around others and have relationships but you know deep down within yourself that you are at peace and happy with you that the whole world wouldn’t end if you were on your own.

*Drop expectations and assumptions – Never speculate or assume things . This negative outlook is not productive and isn’t of positive energy when you are thinking negatively what you focus on expands and you begin to live in your own head.  Never expect anything from anyone, be the best person you can be but never expect someone else to do anything. Be humble, courteous and do things for others because you want to, not because they owe you something in return.  Love without expectations and sit with that energy.  It’s a beautiful thing when you sit in pure non judging, fearless love.  The anxiety, fears and negative thought patterns will shift, and you will begin to vibrate at a higher frequency which means more positive things will begin to change and happen in your life.

*Never chase – Leaning back letting a man be a man and allowing them to flow the relationship, you will be surprised how much a man will give to you and for fill your desires when you change the way you approach things.  Leaning back is safe.  It protects and nurtures relationships as well as our power within the relationship.  If he isn’t taking it forward, move on, never settle for crumbs, you are high value and when you treat yourself as high value everyone else does.

*Learn to be quiet- you don’t have to entertain the drama train or be there for every argument.  Learn to take a breath, calm down and use feeling messages if applicable. Always think before you speak, a trick I use is a filtering technique: I check in with myself to see if my response is emotional or logical. When you run off emotions it repels men, when you’re calm and self assured, you learn to pick and choose your battles.

*Be comfortable with space – Give men space and time.  It’s crucial men have their alone time as well as not being questioned for it.  Don’t freak out or think he’s pulling away, it’s in your absence that men miss and adore you more. Giving men the reigns makes them feel in control but really both people are in control.  Men like to chase and they like to know they’re winning.” ~Manda, Australia